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Title: Even Me
Author: Tanisha Stewart
Publisher: Tanisha Stewart (July 18, 2016)
Number of Pages: 334 pages
About The Author:
Tanisha Stewart was born and raised in Springfield, Massachusetts. She has been writing books since the age of 13. She also takes part in hobbies such as performing rap and spoken word for various audiences. In addition to her career as a published author, Tanisha also teaches psychology, which she loves. She considers her interactions with her students to be the highlight of her day, and because of this, they often see her with a smile on her face. If you would like to connect with Tanisha Stewart via social media, here are her contacts:
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About This Book:
PAIN . . . HOPE . . . CONFUSION . . . LOVE?
Not long after a group of college friends start their junior year, a series of events are set in motion that will change their lives forever… Rondell is a good-looking, smart, confident young man who seems to have it all, but he hides the pain of his past. He grew up in the foster care system and experienced a series of traumatic incidents that rocked him to the core. He made it out of that life, but it hasn’t let go of him yet. Faleesha has just transferred to this college to make a fresh start. She is focused on building her relationship with God and leading others to Christ, but she encounters many stumbling blocks – distractions, persecutions, drama, and a growing attraction to Rondell that excites her and scares her at the same time.
Gesston has had enough. He’s grown up in church, and Jesus is all he knows. He has friends but no girlfriend, a good reputation but no street cred. He meets Faleesha and is convinced she is the woman for him. Shelly’s been in a number of relationships, none of them good. She’s tired of players and wants true love, the kind of love her friend Rashonda has with Tyrone, but she just can’t seem to find her soul mate. Then Gesston asks her out, and Shelly is sure that she has found the man of her dreams. But Gesston can’t hide the truth forever, and everything unravels the more he tries.
Even Me Book Review:
“Even Me” is one of Christian Books that I have read that really caught my attention from the Book Cover to the last page. This narrative touches on some practical subjects that individuals encounter everyday. The fact that this was a Christian based book was awesome. I just finished reading Tanisha Stewart’s novel “Even Me”. What an amazing story. If you need to be healed then “Even Me” is the perfect book to read in the purpose of being minister to through the characters. Without sharing the whole narrative, I have to admit that “Even Me” is an authentic portion of literature, with noticeable characters, uncommon language, and actual depiction of life true to the last punctuation mark. Despite the fact “Even Me” has two central characters: Faleesha and Rondell, the narrative carries an exhaustive representation of characters: Shelly, Gesston, Mike, Tyrone, Chris, Rashonda and much more, in conjunction with confused boy Quincy and bad girl Shalonda. Everyone is presented in a memorable, refreshing approach, so all of them appears not just like characters, but like real live men and women from the neighborhood. And just like in the real world, “Even Me” carries a lot of obstacles. Some of it is inner obstacles; it burns within their souls. Yet a lot spills out, and brings strife, hatred, envy and pain to young men and women involved. It is a difficult period in life and, frequently, a way out seems as the only choice. There is no doubt, we live in the time of false idols when it is so easy to gone astray in the self-conviction of commercialism, lewdness, and selfishness. As a consequence it takes a lot of courage to break out of those temptation. Although there is light and it comes with the one and only name: the name of Jesus. And this is why “Even Me” has an ecstatic ending outcome, although it is not recognizable how it will conclude until you are up to the last chapters. Sadly, in life such stories often end differently. I discover that “Even Me” is the perfect book for healing, understanding and redemption. So if you are looking to be healed, seeking for understanding or longing for love then I recommend you to read this wonderful Christian Book. While I was reading this book “Even Me”, I was thinking about this Hymn of the Church which Yolanda Adams recorded on her Cd. I meditate this lyric Below:
Lord I hear of showers of blessings, Thou art scattering full and free, Showers the thirsty souls refreshing, Let some drops now fall on me
Pass me not oh gentle saviour, Sinful though my heart may be, I am longing for your favor, Whilst thou art blessing, Oh lord Come on and bless me, Even me lord, Even me, Even me lord, Even me Let some drops, Let some drops, While thou art blessing
Even me lord I need you
To come on down and bless me
Sinful though my heart may be
I need you to come down and bless me
Yes, While thou art blessing
Not tomorrow, I need you today, Yeah
Bless me, Even me, Even me lord, Yeah I need a blessing
I need a blessing, I need a blessing lord
Title: The Gospel According To The Wiz –Sermons/ Worship & Devotion/ Religion & Spirituality/Ministry & Evangelism/ Christian Books & Bibles
Author: Reverend Dr. Otis Moss III
Publisher: The Pilgrim Press; 1 edition (April 1, 2014)
Number of Pages: 145
About The Author:
With civil rights advocacy in his DNA, Rev. Dr. Otis Moss III built his ministry on community advancement and social justice activism. As Senior Pastor of Trinity United Church of Christ in Chicago, IL, Dr. Moss spent the last two decades practicing and preaching a Black theology that unapologetically calls attention to the problems of mass incarceration, environmental justice, and economic inequality. Dr. Moss is part of a new generation of ministers committed to preaching a prophetic message of love and justice, which he believes are inseparable companions that form the foundation of the Gospel of Jesus Christ. As part of his community engagement through Trinity United Church of Christ, Dr. Moss led the team that came up with the “My Life Matters” curriculum, which includes the viral video, “Get Home Safely: 10 Rules of Survival” created in the aftermath of Michael Brown’s death at the hands of Ferguson, Missouri police.
A native of Cleveland, Ohio, Dr. Moss is an honors graduate of Morehouse College who earned a Master of Divinity from Yale Divinity School and a Doctor of Ministry from Chicago Theological Seminary. He returned to Yale in 2014 to present the famed Lyman Beecher lectures. The three-day event included an in-depth discourse on the subject of “The Blue Note Gospel: Preaching the Prophetic Blues in a Post-Soul World.” The lectures, which demonstrated a homiletic blueprint for prophetic preaching in the 21st century, were the foundation of his latest book, Blue Note Preaching in a Post-Soul World: Finding Hope in an Age of Despair, published in 2015. Dr. Moss was named to the inaugural Root 100, a list that “recognizes emerging and established African-American leaders who are making extraordinary contributions,” according to the publication’s Website. Honorees range between ages 25 to 45 and their accomplishments and successes transcend media headlines or statistics. With a unique gift to communicate across generations, Dr. Moss’ creative Bible-based messages have inspired young and old alike. His intergenerational preaching gift has made Dr. Moss a popular speaker on college campuses and at conferences and churches across the globe. He is highly influenced by the works of Zora Neale Hurston, August Wilson, Howard Thurman, Jazz, and Hip-Hop music. The work and legacy of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., and the pastoral ministry of his father, Dr. Otis Moss, Jr. of Cleveland, Ohio, have been primary mentors for his spiritual formation.
Dr. Moss is the former pastor of the Tabernacle Baptist Church in Augusta, Georgia, his first pastorate, where the church grew from 125 members to over 2,100 disciples during his tenure. His earlier publications include: Redemption in a Red Light District, and The Gospel According to the Wiz: And Other Sermons from Cinema. He co-authored The Gospel Re-Mix; How to Reach the Hip-Hop Generation with three other contributors, and Preach! The Power and Purpose Behind Our Praise, with his father, Rev. Dr. Otis Moss, Jr.
His sermons, articles, and poetry have appeared in publications such as Sojourners Magazine and The African American Pulpit Journal. Those works include: Power in the Pulpit II: America’s Most Effective Preachers, Joy To The World: Sermons From America’s Pulpit, Sound The Trumpet: Messages of Hope for Black Men, and The Audacity of Faith: Christian Leaders Reflect on the Election of Barack Obama. His work has also been featured on Huffington Post, Urban Cusp, and The Root. Dr. Moss is an ordained minister in the Progressive National Baptist Convention and the United Church of Christ. He is on the board of The Christian Century Magazine and chaplain of the Children’s Defense Fund’s Samuel DeWitt Proctor Child Advocacy Conference.
He is married to his college sweetheart, the former Monica Brown of Orlando, Florida, a Spelman College and Columbia University graduate. They are the proud parents of two creative and humorous children, Elijah Wynton and Makayla Elon.
About This Book
“Through a biblical lens The Godfather is a retelling of the Shakespearean story of Macbeth . . . and The Matrix is a modern retelling of the Christ narrative.” Every Sunday, more than 5,000 people come to hear Otis Moss III preach at Chicago’s Trinity United Church of Christ. According to Common, hip hop artist, actor, and member of Trinity, “A message from Otis Moss III always teaches about love, justice, and commitment to the community. It’s good to have a pastor who’s real and relevant.” Moss describes himself as, “a jazz-influenced pastor with a hip-hop vibe committed to the Gospel of Jesus Christ rooted in love and justice.” And he admits he can talk endlessly about theology, popular culture, and movies. Especially movies. That’s why he’s based some of his best sermons, collected in this book, on these powerful films:
12 Years a Slave
The Book of Eli
The Color Purple
For Colored Girls
Read this book if you love movies and want to find even deeper meaning in them. Discussion questions are included, making it ideal for individuals or groups, movie nights and book clubs. As Pastor Moss says, “If you think about it, movie theaters are the modern cathedrals. Where else, outside of the church, do we gather for a shared experience and are not bothered by the outburst and shouts of neighbors?”
The Gospel According To The Wiz Book Review
“The Gospel According To The Wiz” is that book taken by surprise in the views of the readers. This isn’t any book like other literary pieces that I have read. There are many sermons from themes of your favorite movies including “The Wiz”. Reverend Dr. Otis Moss III really created a book that have several sermons based on Cinema. I thought that was a wonderful ideas in a creative way to minister to the readers through the Cinema. My completely treasure moments about “The Gospel According To The Wiz” is the contemplation questions that deliver the chapters together. Additionally encourages the readers network with the principles provided from Reverend Otis Moss III. The Rev. Dr. Otis Moss III is definitely one of the unmistakable, most fearless and creative speakers in the current seasons. “The Gospel According To The Wiz” explains in a creative expressions format to the readers. Reverend Moss’ collections of sermons and shudder. This preacher from the South Side of Chicago steeped in the world of faith and rituals. He engaged the readers with secular texts to lectures and preach. He wanted to shares his theological foundation. He believes as a person of the African descent who is deeply informed by Africanized motifs from the South that flow from the black churches and West Africa, traditional modalities of sacred and secular disrupting. The entire life is connected to God and all cultural productions from music, dance, and the arts are gifts from God. The Gospel music, the standard bearer of religious inspired folk music, is an amalgamation of blues chords and structure. Jazz and the blues inform and serve as a catalyst for gospel music.Although the arts when authentic, creative, and developed from the wellspring of humanity will absolutely speaks to spirituality. He also mentioned that the references of movies are the language for cultural competency in America. It is not possible to completely engage any television shows or understands a comic reference unless our cultural competency is sufficient to make the connection between the reference, irony, and punch line of the comedian. In my opinion that movies in the hands of gifted writers should be able to do more than entertain. Movies should inspire, empower, inform and motivates us to reexamine our relationships to the world. Movies have always been parts of our lives. That’s exactly what Reverend Moss did with “ The Gospel According To The Wiz” for that purpose in preaching the Gospels to the lost and empower the Believers of Christ.
Title: His Majesty – The Carson Brothers Saga
Author: C Harris/ Tysha Jordyn
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform
Number of Pages: 212
About The Author:
Writing books is not only a passion of C. Harris but it’s her calling. To be able to write real stories, about real women, with real struggles, yet weave in spiritual elements that really show the way God moves in our lives is her blessing. Her mission has always been to love on hurting women and to encourage them to continue growing in Christ so that they can truly experience a life of freedom. Her novels may make you cry, but they’ll also make you laugh, scream, and shout with joy until the very last page. They’re fast-paced and written with blood, sweat, and sometimes tears. She currently live in Texas with my husband, Jordan. He’s a special education teacher, living out his passion, and our dream is to retire by forty and travel the world.
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Tysha Jordyn is an author, blogger, editor, and journalist with plans to ride her bookdreams all the way to the top. An avid reader and a love of life, she channels an endless supply of life experiences to plant the seeds that ultimately blossom into her next bestseller. Her first novel, I Should’ve Cheated, is currently in production to become a web series. Tysha operates under the Write Ordie Mantra, and with her sights set on writing/directing/producing her first short film in the very near future, she is ever on the hunt for opportunities to change the world one story at a time. An East coast diva through and through, Tysha currently hails from the island of Oahu, Hawaii, where she’s thinking of saying goodbye forever to the mainland to live a permanent beach bum life with her family and beloved bulldog, Saint Nicholas.
About This Book:
God. Family. Music. That’s the motto that the Carson men live by. Five brothers with one common goal: to lift their voices in the Lord’s ministry. A shining example of the strength of brotherhood, their bond is solid and their faith is strong…but right below the surface of righteousness and glory lies a sinful darkness, one that is ready and waiting to take each man under if they refuse to walk in their truth. Old flames grow into blazing infernos as each brother learns that the heart will always crave the most forbidden fruit. Ace is the oldest brother, the responsible soul, and the glue that holds together the musical genius that is their group—Majesty. Ace shines in the face of challenge as he puts in the work to send Majesty to the top of the gospel charts, but he soon faces his greatest test when he’s forced to face the demons of his own sin. Just as Ace is succumbing to his own untruths, younger brother Mason seizes the opportunity to prove that he’s the one with the billion-dollar plan for their quintet—and it would all be simple if Mason wasn’t swimming in his own pool of deception, one so shocking that it will test their faith and reveal whether or not brotherly love truly is unconditional. Without fail, this family prays together, but once their indiscretions are brought to light, there’s no guarantee they’ll be able to stay together in the explosive aftermath. Watch these brothers go toe to toe, and find out just how far Ace is willing to go to lose himself in the first installment of this ground-breaking saga.
His Majesty Book Review
“His Majesty” is an outstanding edge-of-your seat narrative with a Christian foundation. I truly found “His Majesty” is filled with so much drama and emotion. The drama is at the boiling point. Once you start reading “His Majesty”, you will definitely be hooked from the first page to the last page. It will cause you to be surprised with the twist and turn. There were several full of shockers in “His Majesty” that kept me to desire to continue to read. I can’t believe that as a reader, I am just at a loss for words and the Authors didn’t disappoint. I was intrigued from the Book Cover. The lessons in this story is by acting on sin will get you into trouble every time. Your sin doesn’t just affect you. It will also dragged others that you care about in your mess. God doesn’t bless mess. God doesn’t like ugly. Whatever done in the dark, eventually it will comes to light for everyone to witness. This was definitely a great Christian reading even though I had an idea what was going to happen. Although I was still were in shocked.
Both C. Harris and Tysha Jordyn connected together and they did an amazing job created “His Majesty”. This narrative is about the trials and tribulations of 5 brothers (The Carsons Brothers) trying to be successful in the music industry. The Brothers have a bond although abruptly, the readers will learn that even a bond can be broken. I loved reading this story not only because it is a great read, although “His Majesty” absolutely different from what I’ve been reading. The Narrative is on the focus about temptation, secrets, family being broken, lies, and hearts being broken. The Character Ace Carson, will cause you to dislike him because of his selfish acts. Although you will hope that Ace will gets his act together before it is too late regardless whatever he’s going through. Mason should really thinks things through before he reap what he sow.
There were several lessons to learned from while reading this book. You can’t just leave your spouse and family for deadly toxic lust from a person you know that you shouldn’t be with. Your family should be your main focus even when there are rough patch in the marriage. The True fact that was in “His Majesty” is really a reality in this living we called a microwave society. WOW! the mysteries or deep secrets will cause you to say Oh My God. By me reading this story caused me to go on a spiritual therapy with all of these unnecessary dramas with these Characters. The Carsons brothers need to get their act together and be there for each other and not allowed fame to destroy their bonds.. Mason try to be the father figure of the group but just discover the after effects when two wannabe stars try to bump heads. You will also see what happens when you end up marrying the wrong person without being ordained by God. I’m just waiting to see what secrets will happen in part 2 because the conclusions of this story will lets us know that the secrets, lies, temptations and drama will be more to come. This was a marvelous teamwork with both authors and that’s why it was a great story to read and reflect on.
Being rape isn’t nothing to laugh at all. There were several series that Iylvana Vanzant touched on about men being raped when they were a child by their family members. There were this one guy Eugene, not only he was raped by his teacher when he was 12 years old but he was raped again when he was in the Military. He is so traumatized about what happened to him. I applaud Iylvana finally said that she isn’t a therapist and refer Eugene to a licensed therapist deals with Mental Health. There were a guy on Facebook who is a Bishop of a Church, had the nerve to say before they were rape that they were gay and they wanted that to happen. I told that person that was the ignorant thing that I ever heard and you should be ashamed of yourself. NOBODY DOESN’T WANT TO BE RAPE OR DOESN’T DESERVE IT HAPPENED TO THEM. Also to the Parents, if your child tells you that they were touch inappropriate, please believe them and don’t tell them it is their fault or called them names such as faggott and hoe. It is time to break the stigma about men being rape and the shame.
Title: Ephesians: Understanding God’s Purpose For The Church
Author: Gregory Brown
Publisher: BTG Publishing
About The Author:
Greg Brown earned his MA in religion and MA in teaching from Trinity International University, a MRE from Liberty University, and a PhD in theology from Louisiana Baptist University. He has served over thirteen years in pastoral ministry and currently serves as chaplain and visiting professor at Handong Global University, pastor at Handong International Congregation, and as a Navy Reserve chaplain.
Greg married his lovely wife Tara Jayne in 2006, and they have one daughter, Saiyah Grace. He enjoys going on dates with his wife, playing with his daughter, reading, writing, studying in coffee shops, working out, and following the NBA and UFC. His pursuit in life, simply stated, is “to know God and to be found faithful by Him.” To connect with Greg, please follow at http://www.pgregbrown.com.
About This Book
The content of the sequence is affluent. My prayer is that God’s word will guide the readers experience growth in their faith to be strong. In case you are in preparation for Bible Study, hearing a sermon, or simply needed to dive submersion into an intimate application in the Word of God. “Ephesians: Understanding God’s Purpose For The Church” is a great tools for a better understanding about the Book of Ephesians. Discerning the equitable examination to challenge and how to go about responding them is fundamental to learning in any subject matter. The author make evident this beyond shadow of doubt. I found “Ephesians: Understanding God’s Purpose For The Church” in three words to be Supplementary, Ecclesiastical, and Sincerely Valuable. I truly prescribe “Ephesians: Understanding God’s Purpose For The Church” for anyone pursuing for a better understanding about God’s Word in Ephesians.
This composition of the Book of Ephesians is tremendous helpful to the disciples of Christ that are serious about the Word of God. Reverend Matthew Hagee mentioned, “The Word of God is alive and powerful! It will set you free, comfort you, heal you, and feed your soul!” AM Brewster mentioned, “If the Word of God were a treasure map, I believe more people would read it. This proves they have no idea what unspeakable riches it holds.” Victor Hugo mentioned, The Word is the Verb and The Verb is God.” The Word of God is so powerful and we need it on a daily basis. Thank God for Greg Brown allowing the Holy Spirit guide the pen in the purpose to create a Bible Study Class in the format in writings of Ephesians. This Book of Ephesians is an anointed insights into God’s truth available to the readers through the pen of Greg Brown. In my opinion, I believe this book bears the hallmarks of a marvelous Bible enlightenment. The conclusion of uncompromising Bible Study and comprehensive progressive application to the lives of the readers.
For us capable of truly worship Him, we must know The Word of God. We also must have knowledge of the theology. If we don’t know either of them, then we can’t truly worship Him because we don’t know Him. In order that the thesis of this outstanding study guide. This outstanding Study Guide will guide you to grasp knowledge of God’s Word. This is another great way of spending devotional time with the Lord. Truly, the Word of God is the Gospel truth, it is easy to read but it is difficult to digest, challenging and penetrate profound. This is definitely not a superficial examination of the message but a thorough explanation of nearly without exception verse. The Church is not a building but the Church are in me like it should be in you. I am not just attending Church to be seen but get my spiritual surgery through The Word of God. We are God’s Beloved Children, citizens and heirs for the Kingdom of God. We also soldiers that are in God’s Army to fight in a spiritual war. The Word of God is the best weapon to fight the spiritual war. We should be willing to learn to live accordingly to God’s Word. Even though this study guide is a Bible study Guide, but it is a great tools for guidance in a small groups discussion or private study at home. I believe that this Study Guide will be used in Many Churches Bible Study because many sermons today that are being preached lack this depth of knowledge. That’s why it is important for you read the Bible for yourself so you will have a better understanding. And you definitely wants a better understanding of the Word of God for yourself. I am looking forward to read more books by Mr. Gregory Brown.
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SISFI and The Suicide Institute breaks down the “Process of #Suicide from Ideation to Completion” with warning signs, symptoms, red flags, early and crisis intervention for prevention and postvention. Most people think of suicide as death, and only hear the word when someone kills themself, but there’s much more to suicide than the life ending by death, there is a process of experiences that involves so much more about the life of the person before choosing to end it by death. Let’s take a closer and deeper look into these things.
Most people truly find satisfaction, happiness and joy in their life and so as they live and breathe it they feel a sense of fulfillment, accomplishment and purpose. Most times we never think of anything going bad or wrong and so the bliss of happiness is what sustains our wellness and sense of purpose, pride, ego and self-worth. Then, unbeknownst to us, one day, a life disruption occurs and the happiness, peace, safety and comfort we had and felt is now being lost as a result of that disruption, and we have no control over it so we start slipping into deep emotional pain, crisis and despair. We also have to factor in preexisting conditions the person is already challenged with such as mental illness, trauma, abuse and some form of affliction that makes coping with this new life disruption even harder.
As the crisis develops, we start feeling like the world is on our shoulders and it’s hard to bear the weight of the challenges that starts to develop from the disruption. Here comes the emotional pain as the thoughts of now needing help, support, resources, Love, attention, comfort, hope and peace of mind are hard realities and needs our heart and mind is consumed by. So we start reaching out for help, support and resources by talking with people, making phone calls to providers and agencies, and anywhere that may have some kind of answer to the challenges we are facing. Sometimes in reaching out for help, the person may use subliminal messages to talk about their pain in third person or referring to a friend or family member being in that state. This is often out of fear of how people will think and feel about them being in that state. No one wants to be judged or labeled, especially in times of crisis, despair and emotional pain.
Depending on how effective and impactful the effort of seeking help results in, the person is either moving back to a state of happiness and peace within self, or, the emotional pain increases because of the lack of effective support and resources that can help them. Keeping in mind that by simply reaching out for help, one becomes vulnerable to the systems and people they open up and reach out to, and while in a state of vulnerability, they are fragile on top of and along with being/feeling broken by the life disruption. Often, the effort of seeking help can be more traumatizing, retraumatizing, victimizing and revictimizing than the life disruption we are facing and so a very sensitive humane approach is needed to meet those in despair for early intervention. As the emotional pain increases, so does hopelessness, frustration and other mental health challenges such as addiction, grief, abuse, depression, anger, violence and more at-risk behaviors. This is when self-medication becomes a serious risk and things like alcohol and drugs, opioids are introduced in an effort to help ease the emotional pain and be able to sleep at nights, or simply get some rest. At this stage, this is now crisis mode and effective intervention here is critical and requires specialized help.
Now the emotional pain becomes hard realities the person has to face which can cause one to question themselves, their beliefs, their self-worth, their purpose, if/how they fit into life, and if life is worth living. These realities starts to affect intimate relationships, family life, social status, their effective functionality on the job and other aspects of life on various levels. Sometimes the realities themselves are much harder than the pain being felt and so while they get lost in the impacts of what is happening in and around them, the emotional pain is eating away at their subconscious in ways that they may not realize (in many cases) that are self-harming and so they start breaking away from loved ones and friends, and the emotional pain turns to physical and so they are feeling it on many levels they can’t manage of understand.
With all that’s happening, the hard realities of uncontrollable physical and emotional pains, the person starts withdrawing themselves and struggle with loneliness, isolation, regrets, shame, guilt, fear and other self-esteem challenges. This loneliness isn’t one that is always seen as down and depressed, it can also be masked as happiness, contentment and joy because they care coming to peace with their plan to end the pain. Often we misconstrue the expressions we see in people because we associate laughter with happiness and sad faces with depression and pain. People mask their pain very well so you just don’t know who is truly hurting, and who you see that seems to be hurting may just be really good at releasing emotions and so not in emotional pain, just experiencing some levels of unhappiness. Unhappiness doesn’t always mean someone is in emotional pain, it could just be a situational state at the moment.
Now that the pain is reaching unbearable limits, and the heart, mind, body, soul and spirit can no longer sustain itself, the heartbroken, mind shattered, tormented spirit chooses to end their pain by death. This choice has options depending on gender, age, access to means and how one feels comfortable completing the need. Hanging, overdose and drowning are often methods used most frequently. In most cases, the person may share their thoughts about self-harm and dying with someone but was not taken seriously or given the kind of Love and support needed to help them overcome the emotions. Males complete suicide more, but females attempt more.
In every stage of the suicide process, there are red flags that signaled something is/was wrong and that help is needed. Sometimes we miss the red flags because we misconstrue what we are seeing and hearing from the person. There are The earlier we can effectively assist in the crisis stages prevents progression of getting worse and makes early intervention more successful. If we wait for things to progress to a hopeless stage then it takes much more work, efforts, Love, resources and support to get out of crisis stage. Crisis intervention adds more complications and challenges to the effort of helping people in pain and so we pray that when we meet people experiencing emotional pain they are in an early stage that the efforts to assist will be easier, more effective and viable.
Some people will go from the life disruption to completing suicide because they may have experienced trauma and hardships before and don’t want to go through it again, so as soon as the life disruption occurs, they choose to end their life before the deep emotional pains, disappointments, rejections, abuse, retraumatization and revictimization reoccurs. Some people lose themselves in the experience of the life disruption like sexual trauma/rape, domestic violence, broken heart from broken intimate relationship, loss of a pet, loss of social status, loss of employment.
Suicide is an experience of immeasurable emotional pain, hurt and danger; not just end of life. Suicide Prevention is everyone’s business 24/7s. Every breath the person takes is either easing their pain, or adding to it. We all have parts to play in helping those who are struggling and suffering with/from emotional pain, abuse, addiction, depression, trauma and despair. If one of us is hurting, we should all be hurting. You don’t have to be a mental health “professional” to help, support, encourage hope and speak life into someone who is experiencing emotional pain and wanting to die. Anyone with empathy and a willing heart in some stages of this process can be the light of hope, peace, Love and sustenance for the person. Focus on being present to allow them to express their pain so their heart and mind can be relieved of it.
— How do we end up in Emotional Pain/Crisis/Distress?
~ Life changes/challenges beyond our control such as Health, Employment, Homelessness, Divorce/Separation, Relationships (family and Intimate)
~ Death- Loss of loved one(s), pet, and how they died
~ Bullying (Physical and/or Verbal)
~ Unable to define/identify self, purpose in life
~ Religious conflicts with self, beliefs and social status
~ Impacts of disasters (self, manmade and natural)
~ Moving from a place of comfort to discomfort
~ Lack of Love, empathy, support and companionship
~ Abuse (sexual, physical, verbal, virtual, psychological)
~ Loss of control over one’s life and circumstances
~ Victimized, violated, traumatized and used
— Some Subliminal Messages of Emotional Pain, Depression and Suicide
~ I don’t want to keep living like this
~ I can’t continue living like this
~ I can’t live without him/her
~ I’m tired of this life
~ Why do I have to suffer like this
~ Nobody cares about me
~ Why can’t I be accepted as I am
~ No one understands how I feel
~ They will be better off without me
~ What’s the purpose of living
~ I’m tired of being a burden
~ I’m hurting beyond reason/control
~ It will all end soon/tomorrow
~ The pain is unbearable
~ I don’t want to ever wake up
~ I just want to fall asleep and stay asleep
~ I feel unworthy. Who am I, and why am I even here
— Here are tips on How To Help Someone In Emotional Pain/Crisis.
These tips will help to alleviate and address the emotional distress someone is experiencing or fear is coming upon them. They help assess their state of safety (physical and emotional) and if needed refer/connect them to professional help services. If you can’t help them connect them to another support resource/lifeline. You can’t help someone who doesn’t want to be helped so don’t stress over not being able to help. Just do your best to help.
~ Listen carefully and nonjudgmentally; it is their reality, not yours
~ Let them talk about feelings, hurt, wanting to die. You’ll hear reasons to live
~ They are not crazy (although may sound that way to you)
~ Never make promises you can’t keep. A promise increases anxiety, false hope
~ Everyone reacts to distress differently. Understand and respect how they do
~ Don’t threaten with hospitalization (can create more distress)
~ Don’t threaten with police/cops (fear of police can force them to self-harm)
~ Don’t use religion to scare (God says/will, it’s a sin, you’re going to hell)
~ Don’t speak down to them. Encourage hope, speak of Love and compassion
~ Don’t compare your lifetime to theirs
~~ What you went through may be similar but with different impacts
~~ If asked about your experience, share, but maintain focus on him/her
~ Move them away from area of threat/discomfort
~ Go for a walk. Find a safe place/space where they can feel more comfortable
~ Encourage positive thoughts, if even 3 things they can reflect on daily
~ Connect them with support resources/groups/hotlines
~ Do not mention stressors (you should know them if you listened carefully)
~ People who make them uncomfortable, angry, sad, frustrated
~ Circumstances that created panic, grief and loss
~ Check up on and in with them periodically to see how they are doing. Stay connected
For more information and resources about emotional pain, depression, suicide, trauma healing and recovery please visit our website at sisfi.org. Please feel free to share this information as I pray it will help bring clarity, understanding and learning to all.
~Brett A. Scudder
Suicide Attempt Survivor
President/Chairman and Crisis/Behavioral Intervention and Response Director/Trainer of SISFI, The Suicide Institute and NYC The Suicide Council