“Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.” (Psalm 119:165, KJV)
God often removes a person from your life for your protection. You need to think about that the next time you are chasing after them. Toxic relationships usually are very poison and negative. Toxic comes in different forms. They come in Talkers, Dream Killers, Obstructionists, Frenemies and Carrot Danglers. Being in a toxic relationship is not healthy and it can do serious harm to your health. Usually people who are toxic are not happy with themselves. They are also not living a positive life. They will try to drag you down along with them. They always blame everybody for their problems except of taking responsibility themselves. They don’t have any confidence in themselves. They are very abusive mentally and physically. Most time they know that they are treated you like crap but they tried to use the mind games on you and tried to blame you for it to turn the blame off them. They are very miserable and tried to bring you down. They tried to take an advantage of you. They don’t have any respect for you whatsoever. Most of the time we know what’s going on but even we are in denial or believe that is the only relationship that we could have. There are 5 Toxic Relationships That You Should Avoid:
Talkers – All they do is talk and talk is cheap. They promise but don’t deliver. They say they’re going to do something and they don’t do it. Relying on them leads to unnecessary frustration. Talkers can be anybody. However, they can only hurt you if you allow them.
Dream Killers – They kill dreams. But you only share your dreams with those close to you. Therefore, what their comments usually carry more weight than a stranger’s would. Some dream killers are innocent and faithless; some are just jealous and malicious. Avoid them.
Obstructionists – They oppose you at all costs, even if it’s for reasons other than principle. They sometimes change their opinion based on where you stand, not where they stand. In other words, they’re jealous, spineless people who don’t want you to succeed. These people are tough to break away from because we often feel that we have to work with these people. In many cases, we do but once you recognize this person for who he or she is, cut that person loose.
Frenemies – Frenemies are enemies who masquerade as friends until they feel threatened. Frenemies feel superior to their “friends.” They may even appear friendly by helping you – as long as it doesn’t threaten their position. But once you try to improve yourself and your “friend” feels threatened, the enemy inside of them takes over. They are very competitive and always want to beat you at their game. Don’t play their game.
Carrot Danglers – This person preys on the desperate and usually has the keys to something that’s really close to you – money, family, helping you with something in the past. This person uses this to make you feel indebted to them. They dangle this carrot to hold you hostage while only benefiting themselves. Regardless of how this person can help you, the psychological damage they cause outweighs any benefits they can provide. Avoid them like the plague.
Relationships are life’s hardest part to deal with. Because of sentimentality, it’s hard to cut these people loose. But we must honestly ask ourselves where our relationships are heading. Relationships are like food. Good food helps us but bad food hurts us. To make this a great year we must eliminate the relationships that hurt us and make room for those that will help us. The time is now.
* This is an excerpt from My Book “Walking In God’s Path Toward Your Destination Volume 1” To Change Your Mindset. This book is available for purchase online at Amazon and Createspace. Here is the link: http://www.amazon.com/author/miltonkelly92